Introduction
Hi there! My name is Oluwamuyiwa Akinola. I am a life coach and a
friend.
Today, we are talking about habits that prevent you from
developing exceptional skills.
Chances are, if you’re not very successful at
dealing with people, you haven’t had the chance to properly educate yourself.
Learning to deal with people is like learning to walk except it requires a lot
more work!
Now imagine if your whole life you had been taught to walk
backwards. Would this make your life much more difficult? Of course it would.
Just like anything else, you need to learn exactly how to interact with people the proper way.
Here we go:
here are the 12 dirty habits you should always avoid when interacting with people.
Dirty Habit #1 –Looking down at the floor when speaking to
someone. You must learn to look at someone directly in their eyes when
speaking to them. If you were taught that staring at people was impolite,
you’re absolutely right. However, this does not mean you can’t look at someone
in his or her eyes.
Dirty Habit #2 –
Slouching when you’re standing or sitting down. Stand up straight. In our
society being tall is a good thing. When you slouch you appear much shorter.
Not only will standing straight make you look taller but it will also give you
a confident look.
Dirty Habit #3 –Frowning
and not smiling enough. No one likes to spend time with someone who’s in a
bad mood. If you’re not feeling too great then try to keep your distance.
People love to spend time with upbeat, optimistic people. Make an effort to
smile, not frown.
Dirty
Habit #4 – Avoiding strangers. Since the day you were born, your parents
have taught you never to speak to strangers. Well, you’re a grown up now and
things have changed. In order to develop exceptional people skills you need to
be comfortable speaking to all types of people. You need to meet as many people
as you can.
Dirty Habit #5 – Making
a poor first impression. Did you know that people will judge almost
everything about you just by your first impression? Make an initial effort to
get along with the person you are meeting and you’ll save yourself a lot of
trouble in the future.
Dirty Habit #6 – Not
making an effort to speak well. In order to develop great people skills you
need to become a great conversationalist. This doesn’t mean you need to speak a
lot; this means you need to speak well. You need to articulate and choose your
words wisely. Basically, you need to listen to what you’re saying and not just
blabber on about whatever you feel like.
Dirty Habit #7 – Not
being a good listener. Have you ever noticed how you tend to fall into a
mind drift as soon as the other person begins to speak? Okay, well if you
really don’t care about the person, then fine. But if you do, make an effort to
listen and let the person speak. It will only help you further on in the
conversation.
Dirty
Habit #8 – Not staying in touch with your acquaintances. To make sure
you have the best relationships with all of the people you know, you must stay
in touch with them. You need to regularly check your contact list and remind
them all that you still exist. I’m not saying to call them up twice a week but
an occasional check up is always nice.
Dirty Habit #9 – Not
being proactive. When there is not enough action and things are looking
dull, it’s up to you to make a move. If you aren’t satisfied with the current
situation don’t blame others, do something about it! Let’s face it: no one
really cares if you’re unhappy, except maybe your mom...
Dirty Habit #10 – Not
enjoying your social life. If you want people to enjoy your company, you
need to let them know that you’re a fun person to spend time with. If you’re a
hard worker, then I congratulate you! However, you need to occasionally go out
and be known for your excellent nights out! Go out and live your life to the
fullest!
Dirty Habit #11 – Not
facing your fears. Actually, this relates to all aspects of your life but
in this context I’m talking about meeting new people, career promotions, etc.
If you need to do something logical but your emotions are getting in the way,
then you need to analyze the situation and use some common sense.
Dirty Habit #12 – Refusing to be open
minded. There are all kinds of people out there. There are different
religions, different races, different cultures, and different languages. Learn
to accept others for who they are not who you want them to be. Give them your
full respect and work out your differences unless of course you aren’t
receiving the
respect you deserve.
There you go! 12 dirty
habits to always avoid if you really want to develop exceptional people skills!
If you’re prepared to create a real turning point in your life then maybe it’s
time you start looking out for the above habit and, quit doing them.
Live free!!!
Pete Grand,
Oluwamuyiwa Akinola,
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